Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is the best model of our life. We should follow the Prophet (pbuh). Additionally, Muslim women will be blessed if they follow Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and the life and attributes of his women companions’. The best of women were the wives of the Prophet (pbuh). Moreover, the Prophet (pbuh) was the best of creations, the one who had all good virtues and characteristics gathered together in him. His women companions followed him and implemented his ideals in their lives seeking the pleasure of Allah.
There were thirteen wives of Hazrat Muhammad (pbuh) who were the “Mothers of the Believer’s”, according to the description of Muslims. Even Muslim women use this term often before or after referring to them as a sign of respect. An enlighten example from the Holy Qur’an in this respect: “The Prophet is closer to the believers than their salves, and his wives are as their mothers.” (Surah Al Ahzab).
The Prophet (pbuh) was in the cave of “Hera” when revelations occurred. The angel came to him and asked him to read. The Prophet (pbuh) said, “I don’t know how to read.” Then the angel caught him and again asked the same and the Prophet (pbuh) answered the same. The angel consecutively caught him and the Prophet (pbuh replied the same. The third time, Prophet (pbuh) read from surah al-Alaq (Ayat 1-3). Then the Prophet (pbuh) returned home with fear and he told everything to Khadijah (Ra). Khadijah (Ra) encouraged and replied, “Never! Allah will never do bad things with you. You have good relations with your relatives and help the poor.” That kind of example proved that she was a faithful wife who supported him and strongly believed in him.
Again, while Quraysh tribe boycotted the Prophet (pbuh) to the valley of Banu Hashim, Khadijah (Ra) was with him. She was ready to sacrifice everything for the Prophet (pbuh). Khadijah (Ra) all the time stayed with Prophet (pbuh) even before her death. She was the ideal character of a good wife who helped, supported her husband, loved the people and relatives, had patience, discretion, prevision, intelligence and honour and, above all, she was a righteous woman. Iman adh dhahabi said, “Khadijah (Ra) was the ideal of all women of the world during her lifetime. She was wise, venerably pious, pure and of the inhalant’s of paradise.” (Al – Hadith).
All wives of the Prophet (pbuh) strictly followed the Prophet‘s (pbuh) commands. Shawdah (Ra) was the most obliged women who followed the Prophet’s (pbuh) guidance and commands. In the Last Hajj or pilgrimage Prophet (pbuh) said to believing mothers, “only this time than you stay at home.” Sawdah (Ra) said, “I will never perform pilgrimage after this time.” And strictly followed this instruction.
However, what an excellent lesson from Hazrat Zaynab Bint Khuzaymay (Ra) gives to Muslim women. Zaynab (Ra) taught Muslims women to be humble towards the poor and the indigent and to sympathise and to meet their needs, console them and support them. Ibn Hisham said, “Zaynab (Ra) was dubbed the mother of the needy because of her mercy, petty and benevolent towards the indigent.”
And Hazrat Juwayriah Binte al-Harith (Ra) was a self-respected woman who was trying to get freedom from slavery. Aishah (Ra) said, “I have never seen a lady more blessing to her tribe than Juwayriah. After marriage with the Prophet (pbuh) she set a hundred of families of Banu Al-Mustalaq free.” That was her a great sign of nobility.
Another wife of Prophet (pbuh) Umma Habibah Bint Abu Sufyan (Ra) had strong faith in the Prophet (pbuh). Once upon a time Habibah’s (Ra) father, Abu Sufyan came to Medina to talk to the Prophet (pbuh). When he entered the house of his daughter Habibah (Ra), she folded the Prophet (pbuh) bed so that her father sits on it. It was such an wonderful attitude that proved the strong faith, deep love to the Prophet (pbuh) and loyalty to Allah.
In conclusion, Muslim women have to follow the behaviours, attitudes like those of the wives of the Prophet (pbuh). By following these characteristics they can lead a peaceful life in family, social, economic, cultural, educational, national international spheres.
The writer is a religious teacher at Core Care & Coordinator of Mentor English Language Institute, Kushtia